I find that with people, you fall into two camps: those who make New
Year’s resolutions and those who don’t.
This is of course axiomatically true (it’s a yes or no question-we all
fall into one camp or the other), but I’ll go a step further: I think that you
can tell a lot about someone when they say they don’t make New Year’s
resolutions.
Most people, as a whole, are comfortably happy and unhappy in their own
lives. If they don’t like
something about their lives, they either change it early on or get used to
it. It is rare that anyone
actually decides randomly one day that they want to make their lives
different. Even the most ambitious
or Type A of people don’t have that sort of sustainable drive. I’m someone who basically has had a bucket list at every step of my life (I cannot remember a time in my life when I
didn’t have 4-5 goals that I was working on simultaneously), but like everyone,
I’m also someone that cannot always get the oomph, especially if it’s a hard or
long-term goal.
Which is why I love New Year’s resolutions. LOVE. It is the only time of the year where
people as a collective group embark jointly on a set of goals. Suddenly everyone is finding love,
losing weight, saving money, paying off their credit card bills, going back to
school, cleaning their houses, and volunteering. Even if you don’t stick to it (and study after study after
study shows we unfortunately do not), it’s still a start. Usually one part of the habit sticks-you bring your
lunch to work or you actually like your Zoomba class or something beneficial
becomes commonplace in your life.
And yet, we all have a plethora of people in our lives who say “I don’t
make New Year’s resolutions,” and this drives me crazy. It’s not just that people aren’t making
resolutions, it’s the fact that they are discarding those who do and say with
great pride “I don’t make resolutions.”
This is wrong for a few different reasons:
First, New Year’s resolutions don’t work in part because you don’t have
a support system, and they work better when you do. The more people making the jump into the online dating pool,
the more likely you’ll find that perfect match. The more people looking for a gym buddy, the more likely you
are to start going. Looking bigger
picture-the more people paying off their credit cards, the less collective debt
we have as a society. The more
people eating right, the less health problems we have as a country. We talk about wanting to take care of
larger financial and health-related implications, but then we discard the only
time of year that socially encourages such things? That seems like some mad hypocrisy.
Additionally, I find that people who don’t make New Year’s resolutions
by and large complain just as much throughout the year about their problems and
wanting to fix them. I am very
supportive of helping people when they are down-and-out (I’m deeply impassioned
and emboldened by the ACA and am stunned by Congress’s apathy toward the
unemployed in the latest budget negotiations), but I’m also a deep believer in
personal responsibility, especially with your own goals. I want to support my friends, and I
feel I do, when they step forward toward a goal, but it’s hard to do that when
you just want to complain and not want to do. Make a New Year’s resolution-in fact, make ten. Put the list on your desk and on your
fridge and next to your nightstand.
And even if you only do one, that’s still something you did to improve
your life.
Because that’s really the point of New Year’s and the resolutions. It’s not about an arbitrary change in
the clocks or drinking until midnight or even selling calendars. It’s about acknowledging the past year
and saying how you’re going to make the upcoming year an even better one. This is what New Year’s can be about if
you let it. And that’s why, though
it makes me feel like Pollyanna, as I get older I find that New Year’s Eve has
slowly become my favorite holiday.
I would be remiss if I didn’t ask you what your New Year’s resolutions
are. I’m focusing on losing a last
bit of weight (I’ve lost quite a bit in the past six months, but have about fifteen
pounds left to go), dating more, writing more (both in my personal life and of
course here), and doing more OVP watching and book-reading. Share yours in the comments!!!
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